I usually say this at least once a day to someone, and I say it so often because I mean it so much! I find that partners most often seek counseling when things are tough, at a standstill, or not working in some way. Maybe after years and years, your partner is starting to feel like a roommate. Or, has the anger and hostility between you two reached a boiling point? Is the intimacy you once shared seemingly gone? When was the last time you laughed together? Perhaps you are even considering if your relationship can go on.

Couples Therapy

This is a tough place to be emotionally, and therapy can provide a safe place to talk through your concerns, provide guidance and insight into your struggles, help you in your decision-making process, and build resilience for the future.

In couples therapy, we can work as a team to understand the problems and directly confront the sources of conflict. We focus on patterns of behavior — both patterns that are facilitating your healthy relationships and ones that are destructive for it. Since these patterns rarely develop overnight, they usually don’t change overnight either, so I find a realistic yet motivated attitude to be key.

Regardless of the specific concerns in your marriage — effective communication is usually front and center as we explore these concerns and build skills and tools to do things better. I love to integrate assessments into couples work! Learning more about each partner’s unique personality and behaviors can provide valuable insight into how to move forward.

While couples often come to therapy at some sort of breaking point; the truth is, the earlier partners can get to counseling the better! Then, we have a chance to create healthy patterns of behavior from the outset and can support early habits of effective communication and meaningful connection! To this end, I often get asked, “Do we need to be married for couples therapy?” My answer is “heck no!” If you want to work on your relationship, build it up, improve communication, and feel more connected to your partner, this therapy is a great option for you.

I’ve had specific training in couples therapy, including the Gottman Method, and understand the unique difficulties facing partners and how to support you in therapy.

I welcome and work with all types of couples: married, dating, heterosexual, or LGBTQ identified.